We all want to have effective one-on-one meetings, but sometimes we miss the mark. Let's dive into some common pitfalls and see if you can spot any habits that might be holding you back.
- Dominating the Conversation: Leaders talk too much and don't give team members a chance to share. They prioritize their own needs over the needs of the other person.
- Not Actively Listening: Leaders aren't fully present or focused on what team members are saying. They listen for what confirms their view vs learning from others.
- Failing to Follow Up: Leaders don't track commitments or address issues from prior meetings. It’s a missed opportunity for learning and support needed for accountability.
- Avoiding Difficult Conversations: Leaders shy away from tough topics like performance issues or feedback. This perpetuates what you don’t want.
- One-Size-Fits-All Approach: Leaders don't tailor their approach to individual team members' needs. They can tend to expect others to adapt to their style instead.
- Focusing Too Much on Status Updates: Meetings become routine check-ins rather than opportunities for deeper discussion. The real stuff doesn’t get air time.
- Not Prioritizing One-on-Ones: Leaders frequently cancel or reschedule meetings. If a conflict arises, they cancel vs. taking responsibility to reschedule right away.
- Creating a Negative Environment: Leaders are judgmental or dismissive, making team members uncomfortable. They can feel devalued by excessive critical feedback.
- Not Asking for Feedback: Leaders don't seek input on their management style or the team member's experience. They miss the opportunity to build real partnership.
- Not Connecting to Larger Goals: Meetings don't tie into the team member's overall goals or the company's mission. They can be poorly planned without clear outcomes.
One-on-ones can be a gold mine for leaders if they're intentional, active listeners, and create a space where team members feel heard. By doing this, they can really support and develop their team.
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